Lesson 14: Am I ugly because I have gray hair?

My Spirit knows.

Dear Reader, Like you, I'm on a journey of listening to my heart more, focussing on what's truly important to me and my family, and letting go of the fluff and sticky crap that holds me down. These are the lessons I'm learning every day. I hope you can relate. Love Brookh


I have been noticing that I judge myself a lot, and it hurts me. I want to like myself, (ALL of me) so I've been learning to be kinder to myself. It's taking longer than I'd hoped ;-) .

Last week we stayed overnight with friends, and as I got ready in the morning, I noticed that in the light of their bathroom, my hair is REALLY gray!

Usually I love my gray hair because it's the real me, but I didn’t realize it was THAT gray because it looks more blonde, both in my mirror and in photos. 

In her mirror it looked really grey.

Instantly I put a judgement on myself; Should I color it? Is this bad, am I ugly?

I wasn't kind to myself then,  I was mean, even scared (of WHAT?). I want to be able to trust myself and BE myself every minute of every day.  

I want to move toward things that bring me joy and be confident enough to change course when necessary. I want to trust others and to fully connect with the greatness I am capable of.

You may not like me, and sometimes that has to be okay ( I can’t control that) but if I want to be at peace in my own soul, then I really do need to like myself.

A few years ago I began to yearn for my natural hair. I no longer knew what color it was, so my talented stylist began to micro-stitch lighter color in my hair for the purpose of growing it out. I had been committed to freshening up that color for over 25 years.

I just didn’t want that anymore. 

I wanted to see who I really am, and be okay with who I see. 

For me, one of the things that moves me toward peace has been growing my hair out and … I have been thrilled by the whole experience! 

 At first it was difficult emotionally, but for the first time … I love my hair. 

I can grow it long now, because it’s healthy. I have natural highlights, that are beautiful...

Sometimes something we really want to do can be scary and we resist.

Today I want you to look it straight in the eye (or the mirror) and find great love in the release. 

I resisted for many years, even trying to do it on my own but like ALL other things, it really is okay to ask for help.

Now I only need my stylist for fancy up-do’s and for a trim every few months.

Ask for help when you need it. Smile at yourself in the mirror EVERY DAY, and don’t keep doing life alone. Join me. Join others. 

And if the road you're on does not bring you great you great joy or fulfillment, be thankful for every experience and use what you know to row your boat in another direction. You have nothing to prove and everything to gain. 

I really do love my gray hair and I'm so glad to be reminded again to be conscious, and as kind as I can be on the journey. 

How about you? 


Fine Lioness, Dr. Brookh Lyons is a chiropractor, coach and workshop instructor on a quest to walk up that mountain, lean over the edge and ROAR at the top of her lungs. It's time to figure stuff out and become the best darn people we can.

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