Lesson 20: That big scary thing, is only a shadow.


My Spirit knows.

Dear Reader, Like you, I'm on a journey of listening to my heart more, finding & focussing on what's truly important to me and my family, and letting go of the fluff and sticky crap that weighs me down. These are the lessons I'm learning every day. I hope you can relate. Love Brookh


If I had a time-machine I would go back to my 25 year old self and ignore all the sales and marketing advice I’d been so attracted to and instead, really take to heart the self-help and heavenly connection that was always available. I would encourage my former self to simply live in the flow and work like hell knowing that my steps are blessed (my actions & words), not my thoughts, hopes and desires.

The truth is though, I was not modeling those life-skills and it has taken me a lifetime to learn them and re-learn them because still I have days when I think, instead of feel…

I believe that there can be great joy found in our work and family life when we engage in the understanding that all life and all of our experiences truly do align with our purpose, needs and desires, but I didn't know that then. I know now that in order to have great joy, we must accept that perhaps, we will also receive great sorrow.

The two are important to each other and we truly can’t have one without the other.

Strange isn't it, that we are constantly being reminded of things that have gone unreleased, things that stick to us and weigh us down.  

Ignoring (the ‘bad’) half of our emotions leaves us vulnerable to leaving good relationships because we are reminded of the things that make us feel badly. Is it possible that the best relationships are the ones that irk us a little? 

Relationships are not ‘perfect’, they are though, the greatest gift in our development as we learn to be mindful, discerning and to have grace in the decisions being made around us.

Today I am paying attention to my feelings because our feelings are not the BIG thing, they are only the symptom of the thing that is truly BIG.

The BIG thing is how I am interpreting what’s going on and honoring (or rather, if I am DIS-honoring) that BIG thing that is coming through in me and wanting to be acknowledged. Like a child being ignored, whether the feeling is truly being seen and felt by my loving self… determines how needy it behaves.

But all my life, until recently, I would scornfully shove down and ignore (even hate) those seemingly ill feelings because I thought I didn’t want to feel them, (but of course I did anyway). Worse, ignoring them gave them power through great pressure that built up inside of me, I felt every day and I would explode from time to time. Sometimes daily.

Again and again my Truth came up. 

Again and again I shoved it down, hating that I feel this way.

Again and again I felt the anguish of what I used to call ‘Bad Decisions’, ‘I wish I Would Have’s’, and ‘Why Me’s’. Sometimes it made me hard, and when we are hard we hurt people as the pressure mounts. Mostly we hurt ourselves.

I didn’t realize how simple it is to simply look at that thing that is 'hurting' me and find peace with it.

It turns out my 25 year old self was exactly where she needed to be, and she is the foundation on which I stand. I am grateful to her, for her pain, for her enthusiasm and for the love I feel for her now. 

It IS possible (to find peace) you know.

If you can relate or want guidance, reach out or let me know in the comments below and go read more of my blogs. You have me, I wants the best for you.

Love Brookh

Hi! I'm Brookh - a wife, mother and life-adventurer who lost her way, and reset. As a Women's Empowerment coach I am committed to helping women like you to remember yourself and find your great value between work, volunteering and family-time so that you have deeper, more real, and long-lasting connection with your own needs and your loved-ones by doing what works best for your individual journey. Today reach for your dreams with purpose and direction.

Learn more about Fine Lioness, Dr. Brookh Lyons HERE. She is a mother, wife, healer, coach and workshop instructor on a quest to walk up that mountain, lean over the edge and ROAR at the top of her lungs. It's time to figure stuff out and become the best darn people we can.

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